I thought that's what you meant... Perhaps the biggest thing for me would be to find a way to overcome the necessity of having an erection to orgasm (and possibly the ability to orgasm without ejaculating...or orgasming (wow, that actually didn't trip a spell check) with ejaculating without an erect...

Ummm... let's see! Lie on your bed, legs spread apart, knees raised, feet flat, use your non dominant hand to "feel" yourself up( pinch your nips/run your hand all over your body/suck on your fingers etc etc), use your other hand to hold your "dildo", without stroking yourself... imagine you are ra...