by sarnoga » June 30th, 2019, 11:48 pm
Jack, Oxy, Fever,
Sorry for reviving such an old post, but I have been mostly away for awhile and came back for a look around and found this of interest. As there are only a few posts in this thread and all by folks who's opinion I respect, it just seemed the right thing to do to pipe up and throw out some random thoughts for consideration as I am apt to do.
I don't know much about rules, I have never really liked rules much. No no no, that is a drastic understatement. For most of my life I have despised and detested rules, while at the same time knowing that some rules you ignore to your peril. I will try to think of an example as I look both ways before crossing the street.
I think there are certain conventions in hypnosis that should be taken more as suggestions than rules. The thing about some conventions is that I never liked them to begin with and try to find something that works better, at least for me. For example, I learned early on that for the most part I didn't care for the standard canned inductions. I found most of them boring and only marginally effective, at least for me.
That left me with the problem of what could I do that I would find more pleasing and that would be at least as effective or hopefully more effective. After all, before I found this site I knew hypnosis from nothing. So what was I to do.
I began by studying all the files I could find on this site. At the time they were mostly files by EMG, Cardigan, MajorPixel and a few others. In case you didn't know, Cardigan is actually a professional trained hypnotist. I looked at what I could find, determined what worked best for me, how that was different from what didn't work well for me. Then I started trying things, trying to make files of my own. I started reading things about hypnosis, other peoples thoughts, opinions, what they had learned. Sure, some presented "rules" but what was more important than the "rules" was the reasoning behind the "rules"
My thinking is, that is isn't so important to know when not follow the rules, it is important to know when you should follow the rules. That may sound like the same thing, but it really isn't. At least not to me. The difference is whether or not you use the rules as a default from which you depart occasionally or take as a default postion of doing what seems right under the circumstances but understanding the conventions and knowing when you should give in and follow them to keep from fucking up something.
So, I studied what was available. Studied a fair amount of the written material that could be found. As much as I could I tried to create in myself a more or less instinctual understanding of how it all worked. You see, rules don't often work well for me. It requires keeping things in memory in a way I am not comfortable with. Rules and instinct often clash, perhaps not in the objective desired or in the result achieved, but in the way they operate. But if you have a good enough understanding of how the rules work and why they are there, I think it can be adapted into one's instinctual actions and behavior.
Once I had somewhat of an instinctual understanding of how things worked I started trying things. I tried things to see it it worked and to see how it worked, expanded on what worked and tried to correct what didn't. As I continued, I think I developed a style of my own, or at least I like to think that at a minimum I developed a style on which I had made my own mark. I didn't despise the things that others had done that worked, rather I valued originality over regurgitation. Not everything i did was original, I certainly tried to build on that which had already been done but I sought out ways to do it differently, with a new twist.
Was I successful, I don't know, you be the judge. You three are, I think, familiar at least to some degree with some of my files. Did I follow the rules, did I break the rules, was I effective. Again, I don't know, you tell me. If I followed the rules or broke the rules I did so sometimes unconsciously, sometimes instinctively. I did what I did, and do what I do and then before I send it off for consumption by the sometimes unknowing general audience, I would examine it closely to see if it seemed good. Yes, I would consider the rules after the fact, at least those I could remember. Not so much consciously as I was following them or breaking them, but after the fact. After my script was complete I would go over it one last time to see if I could identify any of the "rules" I had broken. If I could I would take a good long look to try to determine if I needed to correct anything or should leave it the way it was.
The end result, who am I to judge. I know what I like, I know what I don't like, I know if something works for me, or if it doesn't. I know if it pleases me or not. Beyond that, all I can say for sure is I had a lot of fun doing it. When someone criticized some of my work I would try to determine if they were correct, if it was just a matter of opinion or taste, or perhaps it was simply that they lacked understanding. I encountered each type of criticism and I hope my files were the better for it.
So, even now it is hard for me to evaluate the way some of you view rules and breaking the rules. Do my files reflect the thoughts of a rule follower, a rule breaker, or just an indifference to the rules, or perhaps none of those. I know what I think. I know what I like to tell myself. What I don't know is if either what I think or what I tell myself accurately reflects the truth of the matter. I do what I do, and sometimes it works better than other times.
Any thoughts?
Regards, Sarnoga