I've had great success with TrainDiapers 1 & 2. Am totally incontinent once I have a diaper on.
I sometimes wet myself now and then when I'm not in D, and it's to the point that my wife notices and teases me about it, and she's not surprised when she finds me wearing D.
She wants me to get help - even suggested hypnosis (grin) - but I keep telling her I'll get over it.
How have your S.O.'s adjusted to the situation? What did anyone else do if their S.O. wanteed them to get treatment?