MasterDrayke wrote:Would someone be willing to pm me with an explanation of exactly how to do this from the Dom point of view? What I mean is, if I e-mail someone with the trigger and command(s) I want to make sure I'm doing it right first.
Sorry if this has been answered already. Been looking around. The file description explains it in basic terms but I just want to make sure I have it down right. Also, if I want to train someone to listen to this file and have it work properly, is there anything else I need to know or have them do? Thanks.
The "what to do" bit is more or less dealers choice*. If starting out / starting with a new email slave, slow and steady is probably a good idea. Small, simple / harmless tasks to try and gauge how they'll interpret things, get a feel for limits etc (hint, use a trigger email and ask ;)). Until you know them better, take a permissive approach and don't assume they necessarily know what you're talking about or would be able to do it (again, asking first is easy enough)
(*within the subject's limits and general sanity etc)
Depends what your going for really, just after emptying your balls with a random, fine, probably get away with simple, direct statements. Want something more long term? Probably best to see if that's what they too and build it up slowly over several emails.
Probably best to keep it to one activity per trigger email. And ask for feedback on what they did / how they felt / got on with it.
Email slave is the mental equivalent of BDSM, so safe, sane* and consensual should be considered axiomatic. And as it's by email, unless the relationship is there, remember they have to live with the consequences of you getting them to blow the strict conservative boss at their work.
(* surreal is doable for the right reasons ;))
In terms of language, positive statements where possible ("will avoid" instead of "not do" etc). being polite / respectful may work better depending on the subject, but perhaps the most important is clear, concise and unambiguous - if in doubt, while getting to grips with it, ask them to confirm what they understand you've asked them to do, and can do it, before telling them to do it.
Re getting someone to listen to it, step 1) ask them. Unless you're in a consensual non-consensual relationship, if you know they're going to say no, then it will be much harder to train them (also see above).
The actual listening, depending how patient / time available to do so, simply having them relax and listen to the audio 1-3 times a day should be sufficient. just before bed, just after they get up and either lunch or after work are good times (in that order of preference). If you get overnight success, great! If not, give it a few weeks like everyone else :)
As long as they're relaxed and willing to go along with it, there shouldn't be many, if any, problems. The relaxing bit is important though as it will help avoid any potential law of reversed effort (the more they want it the more difficult it becomes). They pretty much just need to get comfortable and passively let the audio guide them.