by ProfessorPig » November 6th, 2015, 3:36 am
bi grey ace here, i am a little further out on the spectrum so there are many out there who would say i am not a true asexual but i am happy to share my experiences with it.
i do masturbate, i have done so for ages, but i have no desire for sex. for me masturbation takes on the role of something done for stress relief. for many years when i masturbated i did not think of anything. eventually i realized that was weird and i tried to get into porn to fit in. i ended up gravitating to fetish material because it was easier to assign the act of masturbation to abstract concepts than to people. i have had sex, and when i have had it i usually enjoy it well enough, but i pretty much never want to have sex. about once a year i will desire sex but thats it.
for me its kind of like being someone who never wants cake. i can eat cake if i have to, but it would never be something you would go out and seek, and even if its offered to me i really just don't want the cake. for some asexuals its even more severe. even just the thought of cake grosses them out, they don't want to see it, they don't want to be near it, and they definitely do not want to taste it. and you have to deal with average people who just think your crazy and say stuff like "cake is delicious! have you ever had cake? why don't you like cake?!? you must be eating the wrong cake."
your millage may vary, i get the impression that there is a lot of variation on the spectrum. and i know a lot of people who have very different experiences with it, but this is my experience with being a grey asexual.
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