regulus wrote:god i just wanted some help but if thats the way you guys feel i'll leave ...i'm lost lost confused...i could have used a friend to help guide me ..
so far many people have responded to you and only one has responded negatively. i think ftslave67 gave some good advice. friends should accept you for who you are. you dont have to tell everyone about your fetishes but if you are really close a good friend wouldn't care what you do in private.
i think what ftslave67 said about relationships is dead on. i was in a bad relationship for several years with someone who shared none of my kinks and viewed some of them quite negatively. if i had been more open and discussed them with her more she probably would have not been so disparaging of them but the point is it never would have worked out because without some acknowledgment of my fetishes she could not satisfy me sexually.
relationships are a complex thing. having a bizarre fetish can make them all the more complex. i dont think relationships are something you can really plan for. you might have better statistical odds in finding a match if you have no fetishes but if its not who you are then it doesn't matter.
most people agree that hypnosis cannot make you do things against your will. even if you do want hypnosis to work many people struggle for a long time to get it to work well for them. on the other hand some people struggle for ages to get a file to work, then they listen to some random file on here and have instant results. i dont think hypnosis should be toyed with lightly, some people have had some bad reactions to files, but overal hypnosis is fairly safe. most files are reversible and if you are listening to a file you are not comfortable with your boddy will let you know by giving you headaches. from there you should be fine if you stop listening to the file.
you should probably read the forums. there is a lot of good advice on here about what to expect, what files are really effective, and what files have given people trouble. i would recommend you stay away from curse files if you are new here as they are the hardest to reverse. the safest files to use would be induction files.
what are your goals in hypnosis? what do you want to achieve with it?