Sirath wrote:...Is there a file that could work on his bf that makes his bf submit and obey him while being more slutty and sexual towards him?
The first step for trance is desire. This truism applies as equally to trance for smoking-cessation as it does to trance for sex play.
There's risk if your friend proceeds when his BF lacks desire for the end result.When someone's autonomy is challenged... when their sense of "self" receives a message that they need to change... there's a possibility that they'll rebel - maybe begin doing the opposite. The extremis possibility is that the BF will end the relationship.
Here's a weight-loss example from hypnotist Milton Erickson (Excerpted from My Voice Will Go With You - The Teaching Tales of Milton H. Erickson). In this example, trance reveals truth to the subject... their desire to be comfortable is stronger than their motivation to change.A woman said she wanted me to do something about her weight. I looked at her fingernails. She had long, red fingernails. I think they're advertised as "Nails". You glue them on. They stick out. That amount of fat and those red fingernails!
I said, "I can help you, but you'll have to cooperate. You climb Squaw Peak."
She said, "At sunrise?"
I said, "Yes."
She said, "Well, I'd like some company."
I said, "You complain that your sixteen-year-old son is about a hundred pounds overweight. Take him along for company. Set a good example for him."
The next time I saw her she said, "You know, I don't believe I want to lose weight and I know my son doesn't. Do you mind if I stop trying to fool myself?"
I said, "Not at all."