by Jeshi » October 28th, 2011, 7:19 pm
Holy shit how can you possibly have so many typos.
It's very wishful thinking to believe that 70% of people are pansexual. However, if it were the case, we certainly wouldn't have such a stigma against same-sex relations.
The truth is, people who listen to files that change their sexual orientation are only people who are gay or bisexual and want to use hypnosis to come to terms with it. With the bisexuals, their either end up being gay because of hypnosis, or they end up admitting they like the same-sex but also admitting that they still like the opposite-sex.
There are sometimes people who are 100% straight who listen to those files and it doesn't work. But if it doesn't work, they don't see a need to talk about it on the internet. What kind of a story is "I tried something once and nothing happened"? People only feel the need to talk extensively about something if it is impressive.
It's probably true that there are many straight people who are really bisexual but don't bother to recognize it, but the majority of people in the world are still straight. Science backs this up, as the reason behind people being straight or gay or bi is based on a specific portion of the brain that determines what the person finds attractive in a mate. By default, that part of the brain likes men. If there is a Y chromosome, then it is changed to like women. Many things can happen though that interrupt the process, resulting in people whose bodies and brains were made to be men but without their brains being changed to like women, so that they are men who like men. Or, it can make the desire for women, but get stopped before it removes the desire for men, making a bisexual. With lesbians, the process is the opposite. Despite most of the body progressing typically, somehow additional testosterone is released and the part of the brain that decides desirable mates is changed to like women. However, with women there are other factors too, as malfunctions of the ovulation cycle can result in changes in sexuality as well.
As much as it would please me if 70% of people were pansexual, it simply isn't true. Too many statistical anomalies would have to happen for it to be the case.
Personally, I hate the term pansexual. It presumes that bisexual people wouldn't want to date people outside the gender binary, or that they aren't even aware that such people exist. The truth is that most bisexuals use the term because everybody knows what it means, and doesn't carry the same sense of smug superiority that people associate with the term pansexual.
The truth is, the chance of meeting somebody who falls outside the gender binary in a sexual situation is <1%. In such rare circumstances, I believe most people do not consider what label they use to define their sexuality. They would be considered on an individual basis, "do I find this person attractive?" without making the earlier judgement of "Oh, is that a man? Is that an attractive man?"
I don't think anybody would meet an intersexed person, and say "Well, you are incredibly attractive, but I identify as bisexual so I won't have sex with you."