by drydreamer » September 9th, 2005, 6:56 am
Speaking as one who has dabbled in domination and submission, I want to point out that it is actually rather DIFFICULT to take a dominant role with another person all the time! In fact, it's really contrary to human nature; because people cannot feel powerful EVERY day, nor even with just one person every day! Everyone goes through highs and lows in their daily routines. And not only is it difficult to FEEL dominant all the time, but it is also very difficult to be creative in dominance. In other words, it's hard to think of something new to make your subby do each and every day - especially if you have already been dominating that person for some time! So it is really a JOB to dom someone! You have to be constantly thinking of ways to be creative in your D/s relationship. So this becomes terribly ironic; because there is a sense in which the submissive person is actually in a superior position! He or she is the center of attention for the dom! He or she gets to just relax and soak up all the attention, while the dom has to continually be generating new ideas and activities! The sub can basically just vegetate and enjoy the sensations that are created for him or her while the dom does all the work! So YES; it takes some talent to be dominant with someone ALL the time! And I feel that professional Doms/Dommes are entitled to the money they make from their subs, because they are definitely WORKING! And here's the rub: Guess who the dom is working for! The SUB, of course! LOL So some doms are not very good because they are not willing to work very hard for their subs! Isn't that FUNNY! I think so! drydreamer
Looking for a hands-on type lady who wants my hands off. But switching is fun too.