Tangy wrote
What if ...?
The best answer to your question is one of Facebook's relationship status possibilities: It's complicated.
Yeah, you wanted a black-and-white answer. I'm really sorry, but life has a lot of grey areas. It's frustrating to those of us who want black and white answers so we can fill in those government forms properly.
Blanketcross and Professor Pig are right: you are who (and what) you say you are. If you say you're straight, you're straight. If you say you're female, you're female (even if the dangly bits between your legs seem to contradict that).
Like me. I'm a gay male who is a mtf pre-op transgurl. (So ... how can I be a gay male and a pre-op transgurl at the same time? Because I say I am. It's my life; I get to define me.) I'm also asexual, meaning that I'm not really interested in (the messy bits about) sex and have a few other adjectives, adverbs, nouns, and such that I can drag out to thoroughly explain my sexuality and thoroughly confuse you in the process. Like that song from
La Cage aux Folles, which expresses so well in music what I'm trying to say:
https://youtu.be/lupNzpcpDRk
I am what I am
I am my own special creation
So come take a look
Give me the hook or the ovation
It's my world that I want to have a little pride in
My world and it's not a place I have to hide in
Life's not worth a dam
Till you can say, hey world, I am what I am
I am what I am
I don't want praise, I don't want pity
I bang my own drum
Some think it's noise, I think it's pretty
And so what if I love each feather and each bangle
Why not try to see things from a different angle
Your life is a sham
Till you can shout out loud, I am what I am
I am what I am
And what I am needs no excuses
I deal my own deck
Sometimes the ace, sometimes the deuces
There's one life and there's no return and no deposit
One life so it's time to open up your closet
Life's not worth a dam
Till you can say, hey world, I am what I am
Life is also much easier when you come out of whatever closet you've been hiding in. You only have to remember who you are. "You" don't need to change masks for each new person and/or set of circumstances.