Oh no! Reality strikes!
It's true. If I become completely incontinent, some people are going to know (especially if I do it with out a diaper on.) What do I tell them? The truth? Yes, to a point. But do I have to tell everyone (or anyone) my "true" motivation? I'm not so sure.
I always kept my lifelong bed wetting a secret until I actually got serious with someone and eventually married her. I had to talk to her about it. It's not possible to sleep with someone without them knowing something like that, so I better explain. Also, and most importantly, she has a right to know what she is in for. I am the luckiest baby in the whole wide world that she was OK with it and has grown to love that part of me - even the baby part. Before that, the bed wetting was known only by a few, but never spoken of (in my presence). In hindsight, it would have been better to be more (albeit, selectively) open about it.
I started opening up to doctors when I needed spine surgery. I knew that if I wet the bed after surgery, they would be worried about a potentially very serious complication. They needed to know beforehand that it is unrelated, or at least pre-existing. I talked about it more with my doctor and saw a urologist. I was clear that I wasn't willing to restart the drug therapy or alarms that had failed at a younger age, but it would be wise to have my prostate and anything else medical checked out. I told them that I wear diapers at night, but I never spoke about WANTING to wear diapers. Again, my thoughts and motivation are mine. I don't owe that much disclosure to anybody.
When asked if I have daytime accidents, I told them I have had a few. That was only a half truth. I have actually had accidents, but they were a little more like "on-purposes". The urologist agreed that while there were several treatments available, none of them were likely going to cure my Nocturnal Enuresis, and he did not recommend interfering with my circadian rhythm by using alarms at this stage of life. He also said, (and this was secretly music to my ears), "guys like you pay the piper when they hit 50."
In other words, I could expect the daytime accidents to increase. he gave me sample of super expensive name-brand OAB meds that gave me headaches and dry mouth and so I stopped taking them. I was secretly happy about that. obviously, I don't really want to cure my daytime or night wetting anyway.
I guess I'll need to be in diapers. (fake disappointment
- secretly cheering
).
I am in charge of my medical care. I choose not to have a bunch of procedures that likely won't work anyway. Most importantly, I don't have to tell the doctors or anybody else that I want to be in diapers. The reality is that if I do tell them, they are more than likely to chalk it all up as being a psychological disorder and send me to a shrink.
So my suggestion to Mika, Karim and others is to listen to MindMaster's sage advise, but consider who you decide to come out to and how much you need or want to tell them. Building lie upon lie will only lead to a word of hurt and the lies are bound to be found out eventually. But your dreams and desires are yours alone. It is you right as a human being to disclose as little or as much of that as you wish.
As WOH said in one of his scripts, "its nobody's business why you need to wet".
MindMaster,
When do we get to start the next step in the series?
Your baby forever,
Childlike