by OxyFemboi » January 4th, 2018, 4:42 pm
[quote]moo4 wrote
Yeah, it feels like it's a message of how I feel more comfortable and confident as a woman. I've talked to a therapist and she wasn't convinced I was trans, and she recommended spending some time playing with gender roles and women's clothing and seeing how I feel. I've tried and have some mixed feelings, but I get so jealous when I see transwomen's bodies online and talk to them. I want to move forward with a gender therapist but I am still too scared to take that next step.
I've taken the COGIATI and came back with the "feminine male" result and that was both a relief and a disappointment to me. I do agree with a lot of the criticisms of it though, so I don't know if I believe it's accuracy.
I listened again and don't feel much different. Didn't trance as deep though. I'm going to walk through some feminine aisles of a department store now and see if it Sparks anything, even if it's subtle. [/quote]
Talk to your current therapist about seeing a gender therapist in addition to or in place of him/her. Ask if she could recommend one. She will probably make the initial appointment for you. She might schedule an appointment with her after the original appointment so you can talk about how you felt: were you comfortable with him or her? Could you trust him? Do you want someone else? (Not all therapists and clients are good matches.)
Is Feminine Male the same as Stage Three? I always tested as Stage Four or Stage Five.
Look at and buy some feminine clothing. [Thrift stores and vintage stores are great for this.] There is a lot of overlap between men's clothing and women's clothing, especially in tees, some blouses, and jeans. You can dress completely in women's clothing and still look male, or at worst/best, androgynous. The only difference between most men's and women's clothes is which way the buttons button or the way you access the jean's zipper (from the right for men, from the left for women). Very few people notice details as picayune as that.
Are you jealous of transwomen's bodies or are you jealous of their confidence? Believe me, we earned that confidence the hard way ... doing what I'm encouraging you to do. Yes, we knew we were supposed to be female, just like you know that. We still had doubts. We had support. Come out to someone you trust who you can talk to about this. It's good to have someone who isn't a therapist to talk stuff over with. A close friend, a confidant, a supporter ... someone who you can talk to who can keep a secret. A BFF, if you want to use that terminology.
You would not believe everything Joe and I have talked about. We both are going in opposite directions but still ... the transition is the same, though the details differ. We know what to tell each other to expect in the new puberty we're going through. Joe always looked masculine (and was often mistaken for a boy) while I always looked femme.
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