bandler wrote:
Fantasies are sometimes just that - Fantasies. According to many surveys, the most popular woman's fantasy is a 'rape' fantasy. But how many women claim to have enjoyed experiencing rape in real life? If you can arrange to get away for just long enough to listen to a favorite recording, maybe even on an airplane, you can have your life just the way you like it and the fantasies too. Who knows? you might not like the smell and taste of reality, and the cleanup might take a lot longer. But in your mind you can smell sexy perfumes, taste cream and honey, while your body experiences pleasure with no risk.
It is often said that people will fantasize about things they would never do in real life. Just as some women fantasize about being raped but would never want it to happen in real life, just as some men may fantasize about being turned into a cock sucking sissy but would never want to do it for real.
The real danger with fantasy is that, unless it is used sparingly, it can really throw your system out of whack. Such as the case of people fapping to pron on the net all day, having a harder and harder time getting off on live women because they have conditioned themselves to become aroused by static images or watermelon breasted bleach blonds, instead of a real live woman.
The moral of the story...use your fantasies as the spice to your sex life, not the main dish. A1 sauce tastes great on a steak, but I don't want to be chugging it straight out of the bottle...