Perhaps you should have offered to PayPal someone the money to do the transaction up-front?
The snag there is the reverse "holding the bag" issue though - I could forward someone the cash that then just nabs it and doesn't obtain the file.
But if I did such a thing, would you be willing to do it? (i.e. I pay you up-front and then you buy the file and get it to me somehow) Just that your response kind of implies you would be OK with it provided the 'holding the bag' scenario didn't occur (sorry if I've been overly presumptuous though :) )
If you were, it works out quite conveniently too - since you're fairly established on the site / trusted (or at least, I trust you) and I also know where to get hold of you contact wise - via here etc. Which is preferable to any random member (no offence to anyone else, but since I don't take part in the community very much I don't really know many people other than file authors)
you can sign up for nightflirt http://www.niteflirt.com/, and look her up on there. They are probably more awkward than the direct method, but I think they take paypal.
Yeah, I tried niteflirt already - to no avail I'm afraid :( Unfortunately they're even more limited in the financing they offer (Mastercard or Visa, which counts my card out as it isn't a credit card or Visa-based either
I also contact IV via twitter, and she says Paypal doesn't allow (specifically) adult sites, which actually makes sense I suppose (and explains why so few, bar this site, offer PP. I'm guessing either this is OK because it is a general 'hub', or maybe Paypal's rules vary by locale. I have no idea). She also suggested niteflirt, which is a bummer too :/