by susiej » May 18th, 2010, 9:12 pm
You're not a male; you're not a boy; you're not a man. You're a woman. Once you come to this simple realization, pleasuring yourself is a fantastic, sensual, feminine experience.
There are no difficult choices about how to do this; your pussy is there for your pleasure, and the pleasure of your lovers. You don't even think about "doing it like a boy", because that would be impossible.
Your clit is extremely sensitive; be real gentle with it at first. Just lie back in bed, touch your clit with one finger, and rub it in a circle no bigger than a quarter. Visualize what you look like, there on the bed, your soft, curvy body, long flowing hair, generous breasts, fingers busy. Visualize what your lover would see, as she looks down on you. What a gorgeous picture you're treating her with.
Tell yourself you're a pretty girl, and you love your clit and your vagina. Say it out loud, in a your pretty female voice. Realize that it's all true. You're female, and you're masturbating the way females do. Isn't it heavenly? Isn't it just truly heavenly?
Don't be in a hurry. Guys are in a hurry, wham bam, run off to the football game, but we girls like to take our time and love every second of it. Use your other hand on your nipples. Your nipples are almost as sensitive as your clit, and over time, you might even learn how to give yourself an orgasm just by fondling your nips. Draw little circles around your areolas; massage the weight of your breasts. Frig the tips of your nipples. Enjoy your femininity.
Your pussy is getting hot, and that gentle rubbing you're doing is beginning to get you really excited. You want to cum, you're eager for it, but you know we girls take a while to get there, but when we do, it's fantastic! Use the fingers of both hands, but limit your attention to your clit, because that's where your action is. It never occurs to you to stroke, or to wrap your hand around something, because you've got nothing like that.
When you cum, it's going to explode through your entire body, not just the small space of your pussy. You probably won't ejaculate. Girls don't often ejaculate, despite what the porno sites say. You don't need to ejaculate. Your orgasm isn't about projecting something out of yourself; it's about welcoming something into yourself. When you cum as a female, your entire body will spasm and tremble, uncontrollably. You'll probably scream in ecstasy. You'll feel an intense desire to thrust your knees together, closing yourself. This can easily last for ten seconds or more, so be ready for a thrill!
Tell yourself you're a good girl, and that you're doing this very well, because you are! Say it out loud.
Now imagine your lover, who's been watching you play with yourself, can't help herself any more, and climbs onto the bed with you. She kneels between your widespread legs, looking down at your sumptuous body. She's wearing a huge blue strap-on, and your eyes lock on to it. Oh, my gawd, you are so ready!
She mounts you. Her breasts hang down and rub against yours. You feel the pressure as the dildo presses against your labia, then you relax your pelvic floor muscles, and she's in...
You can experience all this as a female. It's easy enough, with practice, practice, practice! The key, as a previous poster said, is to utilize your largest sex organ, your brain.