Liann wrote:
I repeat myself endlessly, no single thing works satisfactorily. It takes everything, all the time.
There's no such thing as the easy way. Girls spend 24/7/365 from age 12 through 18 becoming women. What makes you think there's a shortcut that can bypass every bit of that with 15 minutes a day from time to time?
I agree. I've been working on my own feminization project. It truly is a lot of work. Hypnosis alone doesn't really do much for me, and it doesn't do much more for most of the people I've talked to who have tried it.
Genetic girls can take a decade or more to develop their female form, and they don't have to overcome the obstacle of battling testosterone production from testes.
It takes significant thought and action to feminize a male body. I find that feminizing exercises (as boring as they are) help a lot. Diet is also a huge issue.
Liann is right about it taking everything, all the time. You really have to know what you want and get in the mindset of it. You have to understand intuitively what femininity means to you, and you have to be willing to live it 24/7. If you spend an hour thinking like a girl and the other 23 hours of the day practicing the exact same thoughts and behaviors that you have in the past, you probably won't see any change to the body or mind.
In my experience, the people who have achieved any amount of success with feminization understand the concept of adaptability. This is true regardless of what methods they are using. What I've noticed from most transsexuals (including myself) is that they go into trying to change the body with a very "masculine" mindset. They expect to apply Y technique and obtain Z result. This is very "masculine" thinking, and it will get you into a lot of trouble. Feminization is a lot more complicated than that. The people who succeed very well are the people who are already in a place emotionally to accept a high estrogen environment in their bodies.
What most people don't realize is that feminization is as much of an emotional issue as it is a physical. Estrogens change the way you feel, which will cause you to have a tendency to react differently to certain things. For example, I have a tendency to get mood swings now. I didn't expect this to happen, but it did. I've learned to manage it. Hormones have huge affects on the body and (for many people) the mind. If you aren't willing to accept all of these changes, you will inevitably hit a roadblock somewhere in the feminization process. I also get headaches much more frequently than I used to, and I've come to terms with that as well.
In all truth, I've become a different person over the last few months. I could pretend to be who I was, but I can't really be who I was. My skin is a lot softer, my body is slightly more feminine, I get headaches, and I get mood swings. Once you reach a certain point, you have to give up the masculine mindset, because the functioning of the body no longer supports what provoked that type of thinking to begin with.
Einstein once said: "We cannot solve the significant problems we face using the same thinking we had when we created them." With feminization, this is extremely true. As you change, so do the circumstances. I find that I'm stronger in some ways, but more vulnerable in others. I'm having to adapt myself and my life to the changes I'm experiencing. It is not easy.
Understanding feminization is important. There have been some "transsexuals" who underwent surgery and hormone treatments only to find out that they did not like the effects of estrogen on their body and mind. This lack is foresight is impossible to recover from. Once someone has removed their testes, it is going to become almost impossible to obtain the testosterone levels that they had before.
Even if one has no surgery at all, it is extremely difficult to reverse the effects of changes to hormones once you have reached a certain point. It's called "chemical castration" and it is very difficult to recover from. That's why it's important to know what you really want before you reach that point.
But one thing is for certain: if one isn't willing to devote a significant amount of time and resources to feminization, they probably won't see any results. This is particularly true if they are not on hormone replacement therapy.