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bostonmarc wrote:That has been the question I started with. I am wondering what others think. Are older people less likely to take to the suggestions in the files than younger people due to whatever reason? Does it take longer more repetitions of the files?
ftslave67 wrote:I think that sometimes (unless it is someone you know well) there may be more stress associated with live hypnosis than with listening to a recording (especially if you have heard it before and know what to expect).
wymid wrote:. I know some people might be able to just start over at a moment's notice, but I'd probably go through some sort of identity crisis. What defines who I am? It seems like I am a product of my past and my memories. Thinking about leaving my past behind, my train of thought would probably be "I am whatever person I want to be, and from this moment forward, I'm that person." But then I'd fall into my own trap of "If I can be who I want to be, why can I not simply be the way I've always pictured myself?"
Also, I was raised Catholic, so there's always that.
wymid wrote:I think you are on to something when you talk about an internal conflict. I never pictured myself being gay, so perhaps I can't let go of my past. It feels like I'd be giving up on a large portion of my life and it tossing it to the curb. I know some people might be able to just start over at a moment's notice, but I'd probably go through some sort of identity crisis. What defines who I am? It seems like I am a product of my past and my memories. Thinking about leaving my past behind, my train of thought would probably be "I am whatever person I want to be, and from this moment forward, I'm that person." But then I'd fall into my own trap of "If I can be who I want to be, why can I not simply be the way I've always pictured myself?"
Also, I was raised Catholic, so there's always that.
Well for starters my bisexuality doesn't stretch to having relationships with men other than mates. My Gay side is purely sexual. I don't wanna kiss and cuddle men. I don't want to fall in love and set up home with them. It's really just a sex thing for me.
As for women. I could see myself falling in love, getting married and settling down, but revealing my bisexual side has either drove them away in the past or i've kept it under wraps to such an extent that i've come to realised i can't go through with living a lie.
wymid wrote:
Like the writer, I can easily see myself falling in love with a woman, but not a man. I feel like this is where I am, but it freaks me out if I get too excited about men, and I sometimes find myself with a strong urge to purge.
It makes me wonder how many straight guys out there also have a hidden sex-only type of gay side to them.
wymid wrote:
It makes me wonder how many straight guys out there also have a hidden sex-only type of gay side to them.
bostonmarc wrote:So what is wrong with just making it a sex thing? Is this about having sex with men or concern about a label of gay or bi?
I believe that being happy and feeling good are more important and more why you are here than the label. Also just as the transformation has taken some time, don't you consider that in time your feelings about what you will do or not might also change?
wymid wrote:
Hmm, I guess I'm nervous I'd end up like what Alien4420 wrote about Leonard Bernstein, only not as lucky. If it's just a sex thing, it's difficult to imagine a woman that wants to be in a relationship like that. I'm sure there are some out there, but the thought I'll end up alone starts to creep into my mind.
This thread has certainly given me a lot to contemplate.
Dogboy wrote:There are women out there who are fine with open relationships (both the man and woman have an open relationship) and there are people who are into poly relationships where you are in relationships with several people and those people are also in relationships with each other.
Meeting people in the kink community might be an option if you want to explore sexuality without constraints of traditional relationships. (gay or straight)
bostonmarc wrote:
... in mainstream and most of the rest of the world, most women are not so into open relatonships and bi men.
I think if you take some time off from this site, forum and the file, give yourself a chance to see what you really want and feel, and then either back at it full bore or stay on your path to being straight. It is either do it or don't baby!! Trust me it is a slippery slope at best in between.
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