wohermiston wrote:The point I am making is that I don't think you really need to worry about becoming incontinent, you will always be in control of how you choose to pee.
Hey there, Woh! I wanna say up front that I have a ton of respect for both you and your work. Many of your files have helped me along the path I've taken towards "untraining". That being said, and please forgive me if I'm misinterpreting the quoted line, I feel pretty strongly that you're wrong on this particular count. I agree that training your body to ignore and eventually not even notice the bladder/bowel urge signals, as well as to release autonomically instead of consciously, doesn't quite line up with the true medical definition of incontinence. Still, it ends up being the same practical result after enough time spent in that autonomic state. Whether someone needs diapers because they've learned over many months or years to habituate tuning out urge signals and immediately releasing without conscious input, or they need diapers because their bodies are physically unable to send that signal successfully/their muscles are too weak to act on the signal, both are functionally incontinent. Both lack conscious control of their toileting needs. Without diapers they'd be soiling their clothing and anything beneath them.
I say this speaking from a place of experience. I had perfect control from ages 6-25 or so. More than perfect in some ways (can't have poor bowel control if you almost never mess due to chronic constipation lol). Compare that to today, where I wet myself whenever I laugh or cough too hard, regardless of whether or not I'm diapered. I mess myself with little to no warning pretty much daily. I deal with the occasional wet bed or night diaper, despite never having had a sleepwetting incident before untraining.
And here's the kicker: this is all after I spent several months trying to
regain control. Before that my bladder continence was significantly worse, with unexpected/subconscious wetting during the day and 3-4 wet nights per week. Despite the progress I was able to make on my bladder control over these last months, my bowel control never recovered and remains in the same state as when I started retraining. I spent months of hard effort trying to recover and yet I never made any progress at all. Maybe I still could by going into physical therapy, but I'm increasingly doubtful of even that.
I will say that I agree that hypnosis won't make any such changes on its own. It can push you towards good habits for untraining, such as practicing constant relaxation of the sphincter muscles and staying well-hydrated, but listening to someone's words is never going to be able to undo decades of practiced habit on its own. I found hypnosis to be a good motivator and a good way to keep myself in the right headspace to replace my toileting habits, but all the effort and change had to come from dedication, practice, and time. 5 years worth of time for me, though from the accounts of others it generally takes less.
But yeah, sorry for arguing
Again, I respect and admire you a toooon for the work you've done in the abdl hypno world and I don't mean this post in any rude or aggressive way. People saying that untraining is a myth and learned incontinence can't be done is just a bit of a hot button subject for me. Particularly when all I have to do is look down at my soiled diaper to know otherwise