Wow, where to start. I don't have a weight bench, no spotter, I do have weights, barbells, and dumbells though, and am to quote MusclePig, self motivated. I don't know too much about lifting and fitness, but I am learning fast. I am starting slow and small with just a file and want to see how that helps to shape my goals, hopes and attitude, and will with time expand. I'm not opposed to trying the kinky stuff, or pay files, but like I said want to start slow, and see where I go from there.