I might be OK. I'm not sure.

I told her. I told my wife that (as she knew) I've had the fantasy of wearing diapers all the time and needing them because I wet them, that I was using hypnosis files to try to make that come true, and that I had been corresponding with MM and the other person not on this site.

She was upset ... but not flying-off-the-handle upset. She was disappointed that I'd started a "relationship" with MM without involving her first (when she considers playing with a new submissive, she has them meet me and her current sub first), but it's not as if MM and I are dating or something. I'm using his files, I helped him with some advice on some of them, and he's giving me advice on using them, and we're friends (I hope we're still friends after this anyway!).

Mostly she was concerned about the impact this has on her and her submissive. I've been trying to minimize that, washing my own laundry when it's gotten wet, taking out the trash myself when there are disposable diapers in it (which is always, now), etc. She's concerned about the money it will cost (we can handle it). But mostly she's concerned about things I have done since we were married that cause her stress, things only tangentially related to this issue.

Things like doing household chores (I have mine, she has hers) without being reminded, and being there for her when I say I will (being home for dinner on time, for example) have been a problem for me for years. But ... what if I can use this as an opportunity to improve? I'm finally fulfilling a big fantasy in my life. What if I can give back in this way, to show my thanks for being understanding?

This might work. I might be OK.